About a year ago, I started learning the benefits of Social Media both for personal connections as well as Business connections. While being new to the Social Media world, I was amazed at how few people use greetings, thank you notes and welcome messages when asking for a friend connection.
I don’t know, maybe I am old fashioned, having grown up in the 60′s learning from Dear Abby. But one thing was for sure, I was taught that please and thank yous were essential in my daily life. I was also taught to write thank you notes when someone gave me a gift. I was also taught that sending a nice card or letter was a way to connect.
When I started going to local business networking groups, I took my business cards, shook hands, introduced myself and followed up to say thank you at the end of the event. I also reached out to those who gave me business cards to say hello and try and meet during other ocassions as well.
I learned by doing that, you build more credibility and respect in the community leaving opportunities for not networking, business building and connections. So why not use those skills in the Social Media World as well? That is when I decided to ask others what they thought? Was I the only one with this pet peeve?
So the other day I posted a question on my Facebook wall asking people what they thought about individuals not leaving messages when they want to ask for a friend request. This was my original question:
“When I logged on this morning, I had 7 friend requests and none of them had a welcome greeting or told me why they wanted a friends connection. I wonder how many of them go to a local social event without introducing themselves, shaking hands, giving out business cards and following up. Maybe I should start a “Dear Cindy” etiquette column. What do you think?”
I was surprised to have gotten 21 comments, including my own, on an issue that is highly ignored. For this reason, I thought it would be a good topic for further discussion. Many of those who commented on my wall were friends of mine from way back when I grew up in a small town in Delaware. Others who commented were friends I had met online through Social Media. Those online friends have become great connections and we have grown closer through your engagements, notes to each other, podcasting and genuine desire to get to know one another. They each had a thought on the matter making me realize that there is a real need to take offline manners online.
So please, send a “Hello” email when asking for a friend’s request. And, send a “Thank You” note after the request is accepted. Even if your connection doesn’t reciprocate, do it anyway. You know the old saying “Two Wrongs Don’t make a Right? Well, I believe this saying applies to Social Media.
I will be adding lots more discussion about Facebook throughout my blog challenge. In the meantime, please continue the discussion here by telling me and others what your thoughts are on Facebook friend request and the art online etiquette.
Until next time,
Have a nice day and remember to leave a comment. I love feedback.
Cindy