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I have a confession to make. I am a “What If” person and I am working so hard to change that. In wanting to make 2012 my year for “RESULTS” in many of the goals I am trying to accomplish, the “What If’s” have to go!
For example, I don’t think I am a great writer so I put off writing articles for a year. While I have a lot of work to do to perfect my writing skills, I decided not to put if off anymore. I used to say “What If” people don’t like it or “What if” I get rejected.
Well, here’s a NEWSFLASH! I WAS rejected when I wrote my first article. Being new to the site, I made some errors and got an email that I had to “fix” my article. Well guess what? I fixed it and it got published. You know what happened? My confidence moved up a notch and I wrote 3 more articles that same week. They are still “pending” for approval but I am hopeful to share them with you very soon.
I realized that my “What if” thinking was keeping me stuck in the past and worrying about the future instead of helping me focus on the present. This realization was the beginning of my journey for reaching my goals for 2012 and learning to train my brain to think positive.
When you start thinking about the “What If” in your own life, how do you handle it? Do you put off your goals and accomplishments just to find out that a year or more has gone by and you are still in the very same situation in your life?
I understand those “What if” issues can be very stressful, believe me. I got laid off 2 jobs in less than a year and I know about “What If.” That experience really set me back big time for awhile and kept me stuck and depressed. I was consumed with “What If” and thinking I coulda, woulda, shoulda done something better. Those two words kept me stuck.
Let’s say you want to quit your job and follow your dreams? But your “What if” chatter is telling you “what if” I don’t have health insurance OR “what if” I don’t find another job OR what if I run out of money and on, and on…. But, what if you didn’t pursue that new dream and time passed by? Then, would you say to yourself, “What if” I had done that?
Think about it. Those two words are very powerful and can make or break your decision to move forward and pursue your dreams.
When my children were young, we used to love reading. One of my most memorable children’s author, Shel Silverstein, has several poetry books. Here is one of his poems that I remember reading many years ago and it still stays with me. Why, because I was a worry wart and stressed about these questions myself.
“What if” by Shel Silverstein
Last night, while I lay thinking here,
some Whatifs crawled inside my ear
and pranced and partied all night long
and sang their same old Whatif song:
Whatif I’m dumb in school?
Whatif they’ve closed the swimming pool?
Whatif I get beat up?
Whatif there’s poison in my cup?
Whatif I start to cry?
Whatif I get sick and die?
Whatif I flunk that test?
Whatif green hair grows on my chest?
Whatif nobody likes me?
Whatif a bolt of lightning strikes me?
Whatif I don’t grow talle?
Whatif my head starts getting smaller?
Whatif the fish won’t bite?
Whatif the wind tears up my kite?
Whatif they start a war?
Whatif my parents get divorced?
Whatif the bus is late?
Whatif my teeth don’t grow in straight?
Whatif I tear my pants?
Whatif I never learn to dance?
Everything seems well, and then
the nighttime Whatifs strike again!
Remember a “What If” thought takes place in the past or the future, it’s not the present. So the next time you ask yourself “What If”, try asking yourself “What Is” holding me back from starting in the present and staying focused on today. Yesterday and tomorrow are gone. Today begins the rest of your life.
What will you do to turn your “What If” thinking into a positive and present affirmative for today to help you follow the path you want to find?
Let me know what you think by leaving a comment below.
Until next time, enjoy your day.
Cindy